No matter how beautifully we plan our future, no matter how enthusiastically we write down our short-term and long-term goals, whether mentally or on paper, they will all remain beautiful mental images without one important and necessary nuance—without the first step. It is this step, this precious debut, that magically transforms all our mental theories … Continue reading A Precious Debut

When natural, normal concern for another person first becomes excessive, then obsessive, and eventually hypertrophied, it ultimately turns into pathological concern after all these transitional stages. While normal and adequate care is a completely natural and commendable feeling, obsessive attachment becomes a pathological desire to control another person—helping them in every way possible, even at … Continue reading Pathological concern

Is it possible to show leniency towards someone and forgive them, even when you clearly understand deep down that they are categorically wrong? Not only is it possible, it is sometimes necessary. Forgiveness is a conscious gesture that allows you to stop harbouring resentment and release a great deal of energy. After all, some people … Continue reading Forgive, justify, or reconcile?

If you have set yourself a goal such as “happiness, wealth, and more money” – congratulations, you are unlikely to achieve much with this kind of goal. Why? Let’s briefly discuss this. The main principle of obtaining money and happiness is not to focus on them directly. The pinnacle of skill is to obtain them … Continue reading The Essence of the Act

If you take such pleasure in other people's failures that, in the heat of schadenfreude, you forget about your own achievements — which, in the grand scheme of things, mean even less to you than relishing other people's failures — then this is a clear sign that your feelings are far from constructive. On the … Continue reading Identify and redirect

Where does envy come from, and what fuels it? Envy does not arise out of nowhere; it is catalysed by attempts to compare ourselves with others. Often, these comparisons are not in our favour, and this can cause not only sadness, anger and resentment, but also underlying anxiety — a fear that can grow subconsciously … Continue reading Envy – Getting Rid of It

Answer this question honestly: ‘Are you currently overloaded to the point where you just don’t want to do anything?’ If so, let’s discuss this pressing issue. There is one very important nuance to this overload, so it would be wise to answer one question honestly: does all this enormous workload really bring me closer to … Continue reading Colossal workload

Even the most advanced and self-aware person can sometimes “slip up” and use a clever manipulative trick to achieve what they want as quickly as possible. Why? First of all, because we are living human beings, not robots, and secondly, because situations vary. The key point, however, is that when we do slip up and … Continue reading Exception to the Rule

These two types of envy can also be classified as unhealthy and healthy. Black envy manifests as a kind of illness — it serves no purpose and is just a constant state of distress. White envy, on the other hand, is a healthy feeling, because focusing on the actions of others does not become a … Continue reading Envy: Black and White

How difficult it is sometimes to realise that we cannot change another person! Even though we understand this deep down, we often stubbornly stick to our guns. In reality, all we can do is approach them directly and sincerely, clearly stating our request and simply and honestly explaining our desires and needs. How they respond … Continue reading Freedom of Choice