If you take such pleasure in other people's failures that, in the heat of schadenfreude, you forget about your own achievements — which, in the grand scheme of things, mean even less to you than relishing other people's failures — then this is a clear sign that your feelings are far from constructive. On the … Continue reading Identify and redirect

Where does envy come from, and what fuels it? Envy does not arise out of nowhere; it is catalysed by attempts to compare ourselves with others. Often, these comparisons are not in our favour, and this can cause not only sadness, anger and resentment, but also underlying anxiety — a fear that can grow subconsciously … Continue reading Envy – Getting Rid of It

Answer this question honestly: ‘Are you currently overloaded to the point where you just don’t want to do anything?’ If so, let’s discuss this pressing issue. There is one very important nuance to this overload, so it would be wise to answer one question honestly: does all this enormous workload really bring me closer to … Continue reading Colossal workload

Even the most advanced and self-aware person can sometimes “slip up” and use a clever manipulative trick to achieve what they want as quickly as possible. Why? First of all, because we are living human beings, not robots, and secondly, because situations vary. The key point, however, is that when we do slip up and … Continue reading Exception to the Rule

These two types of envy can also be classified as unhealthy and healthy. Black envy manifests as a kind of illness — it serves no purpose and is just a constant state of distress. White envy, on the other hand, is a healthy feeling, because focusing on the actions of others does not become a … Continue reading Envy: Black and White

How difficult it is sometimes to realise that we cannot change another person! Even though we understand this deep down, we often stubbornly stick to our guns. In reality, all we can do is approach them directly and sincerely, clearly stating our request and simply and honestly explaining our desires and needs. How they respond … Continue reading Freedom of Choice

One thing you definitely shouldn’t do is second-guess other people — unless, of course, you are a professional telepath. And since I dare say not many of us are, it’s simply not worth fantasising about what others might be thinking about you. Whatever conclusions you come to will remain just that — guesses, not facts. … Continue reading Thoughts — Second Thoughts

How important it is to learn to forgive — and even more so, to let go mentally. Don’t keep someone who may have long since disappeared from your life trapped in your thoughts; instead, gently open that trap and set them free. After all, by forgiving and, most importantly, letting go in your mind, you … Continue reading Forgive and Let Go

In our last conversation, we discussed how to distinguish between suffocating self-flagellation and useful self-analysis. Today, let's look at how you can shift from a negative cycle of self-flagellation to positive, constructive self-analysis. The first key point is to clearly recognize that you are engaging in self-digging. Pay particular attention to your feelings and emotions … Continue reading How to get rid of self-flagellation

Let us begin our discussion of this important topic with the most important element — questions. Self-reflection regularly involves asking questions such as: ‘Why did all this happen to me?’, ‘How could I have done such a thing?’ or ‘Why was I born this way?’ Self-analysis, on the other hand, focuses on something completely different: … Continue reading Self-reflection and self-analysis. What is the difference?