Do you have problems in your life? If so, and if you have quite a few of them, you can try choosing one to start with. And not just choosing it, but also applying three clever techniques to it, step by step: Understand, accept, and then step back. Look at the problem calmly, as if … Continue reading Three Clever Techniques
b. Mindset
Wise ideas for everyday life
Personal Boundaries — Important!
The ability to calmly and confidently say “no” is an essential quality, because being able to withstand another person’s negative reaction to your refusal is one of the key elements of healthy and effective communication. In doing so, you demonstrate that, regardless of your positive feelings toward someone, you first and foremost value and clearly … Continue reading Personal Boundaries — Important!
Right here, right now!
Very often, many of us think: Once I lose weight / make a million / move into my dream house / find my dream job / buy a cool car / get married / etc., only then will my real, fulfilling life finally begin! I used to float in similar naive clouds, but in the … Continue reading Right here, right now!
3 + 3 = 100
Recently, in one of my analyses, I mentioned the works of two well-known psychologists — Eric Berne and his student, Stephen Karpman. Today, I’d like to briefly summarise the differences between the three behavioural roles identified by Eric Berne and the three completely different roles described in Karpman’s triangle. Let’s start with Berne’s model and … Continue reading 3 + 3 = 100
Energy Vampires – Mysticism or Reality?
If you constantly feel exhausted and drained after interacting with a certain person, it’s worth reflecting and analyzing. It may turn out that this person regularly feeds off your emotional energy — in other words, energy vampirism. Here, it’s important to pay attention not to the person’s actions, but to your own feelings in their … Continue reading Energy Vampires – Mysticism or Reality?
Pathological Concern
When natural, normal concern for another person first becomes excessive, then obsessive, and eventually hypertrophied, it ultimately turns into pathological concern after all these transitional stages. And if normal and adequate care is a completely natural and commendable feeling, then obsessive attachment becomes simply a painful desire to control another person, helping them in every … Continue reading Pathological Concern
A Big Difference
Have you ever wondered why arguments arise in the first place – in a team, in a family, or at work? And if so, have you ever thought about how to get rid of them, or better yet, how to prevent them altogether? I will answer you without hesitation – yes, it is possible, but. … Continue reading A Big Difference
Goals: Set Them and Achieve Them!
Oh, how many times have each of us written down our goals for the New Year (and not only!)? Were all of them ultimately achieved? Of course, it varies from person to person, but for many, these goals often remain on paper, only exacerbating a gradual underlying sense of guilt for not achieving them. And … Continue reading Goals: Set Them and Achieve Them!
Alive & Listening 