One thing you definitely shouldn’t do is second-guess other people — unless, of course, you are a professional telepath. And since I dare say not many of us are, it’s simply not worth fantasising about what others might be thinking about you. Whatever conclusions you come to will remain just that — guesses, not facts. … Continue reading Thoughts — Second Thoughts

How important it is to learn to forgive — and even more so, to let go mentally. Don’t keep someone who may have long since disappeared from your life trapped in your thoughts; instead, gently open that trap and set them free. After all, by forgiving and, most importantly, letting go in your mind, you … Continue reading Forgive and Let Go

In our last conversation, we discussed how to distinguish between suffocating self-flagellation and useful self-analysis. Today, let's look at how you can shift from a negative cycle of self-flagellation to positive, constructive self-analysis. The first key point is to clearly recognize that you are engaging in self-digging. Pay particular attention to your feelings and emotions … Continue reading How to get rid of self-flagellation

Let us begin our discussion of this important topic with the most important element — questions. Self-reflection regularly involves asking questions such as: ‘Why did all this happen to me?’, ‘How could I have done such a thing?’ or ‘Why was I born this way?’ Self-analysis, on the other hand, focuses on something completely different: … Continue reading Self-reflection and self-analysis. What is the difference?

Very often, people drown in their own illusions. What are these illusions about? They concern the idea that some people are higher in rank and others are lower. Some individuals immerse themselves so deeply in these illusory beliefs and look up to all these high-ranking individuals that their inner tension increases wildly, threatening to tear … Continue reading Far-fetched illusions

If, at the dawn of your relationship, your partner showers you with attention, gifts, and a barrage of assertive advances, creating the illusion of a magical, fairy-tale romance, this may well be a sign not of sincere, deep passion, but of ordinary manipulation — the goal of which is to get you emotionally involved and, … Continue reading Overbearing Love

Let’s talk today about what makes some people cling so desperately to their sometimes downright destructive life scenarios and to the difficulties that seem to arise out of nowhere. In reality, these difficulties do not come out of nowhere, because they are a kind of subconscious “bonus” that we, without fully realizing it, order for … Continue reading Infantilism — Good or Bad?

What does it mean to be proactive? It means that a person with an active approach to life does not simply drift along like an amoeba, but actively analyzes their life situation. They do not just analyze it — they regularly set specific goals. And they do not merely set goals; they plan concrete steps … Continue reading An Active Approach to Life

The pitfall of paralyzing perfectionism is no joke! Believe me, there is nothing to be proud of here. Sometimes perfectionists paralyze themselves so completely in their pursuit of an unattainable ideal that there is certainly nothing to laugh about. How does healthy human self-discipline differ from tenacious, suffocating perfectionism? Firstly, self-discipline (SD) is usually fueled … Continue reading The Pitfall of Paralyzing Perfectionism